Is your focus on growth and accumulation?


Is your focus on growth and accumulation?
Some say that it is human nature to seek security, comfort, and success.

When we have great wealth, knowledge, and more “stuff” we are perceived to have achieved these goals.

Society, places such a high value on these things, we seemed to all be judged by our growth and success.

Marquins de Condorcet is quoted as saying, “Enjoy your own life without comparing it with that of another.”

So much easier said than done!

I looked closely to see the causes of this mindset with people, to grow and accumulate. I found two types of fear to be the main reasons.

👉 Fear of scarcity.

This is a deep-seated belief that you will not have enough. Money, food, opportunities, or enough “stuff”.

This is often found to be rooted in past experiences of lack. Not having enough growing up, wearing thrift store clothing, living in mediocracy or poverty. This insecurity can lead to feelings of anxiety, hoarding, and the need to compete with others to be the best.

The second fear is:

👉 Fear of failure.

Most of this fear is rooted in our need for validation, not wanting to be judged or rejected. For some, fear of failure can be debilitating.

We need to recognize that this is an emotional response. A feeling of anxiety, apprehension, or dread when we think we are falling short of our goals or expectations.

So why do we live this way?

There’s an old saying that you can’t take it with you when you’re gone. So far, I have found that to be 100% true.

I believe we have allowed society to dictate the definition of success and we have bought into that definition. It says we should:

⁃ Work long hours.
⁃ Work multiple jobs (under the guise of making ends meet)
⁃ Keep up with the Jones’

It’s no wonder we have so much burn out in the workplace and disfunction in the home.

If we truly consider what these hours away from family (especially kids who need their parents) are doing, we could change the outcome.

Now there is nothing wrong with “chasing the dream” as long as your motives for doing so are anchored in truth and not based on the thought of “he who collects the most toys wins.”

Rotary International has what they call the Four-way Test. It goes like this:

Of all the things we think say or do:

1. Is it the truth?
2. Is it fair to all concerned?
3. Will it build good will and better friendships?
4. Will it be beneficial to all concerned?

I think we would have a really cool world if we followed that test.

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